How to Live with Other People

I'm contemplating attempting to turn the energy of my frustrations with my housemates into something positive by writing a series of articles here about things people can do to make living in a shared space more pleasant for everybody involved. I realized, mostly by visiting shield_toad111 and discovering things they do which are really helpful, and which should be obvious but which I'd never thought of, that a lot of these simple things we think are obvious might not actually have occurred to other people.

The problem is that there's still a level on which I'd be bitching about my housemates in public. The real problem with that is that many of the habits (or lack of habits) I find frustrating in them aren't things I've made any effort to communicate with them about. I believe that, while there's a place for "blowing off steam" to deal with frustration, using that as a substitute for good communication is a mistake. Also, I think it would be unnecessarily hurtful for someone to learn I have a problem with something they do by being pointed to my public rant about it, even if I didn't identify them.

This of course suggests suggestion number one, which I clearly need to internalize: Develop and maintain good communication habits with the people you live with, and discuss any problems you may be having in a positive and productive manner, keeping in mind that the objective is to increase everybody's comfort, not to assign blame.

While I'm working on internalizing that and improving my relationships with the people I live with, anybody have any advice on my dilemma? I get the impression (from people who have little reason to lie about it saying they find hearing me complain about these things interesting) that I could potentially write something that's both entertaining and informative, so it might serve as something of a minor public service, but it would still mean me complaining about things people do that they may not know bother me in a public space where they could potentially be forced to learn about it. Not to mention that there are people who read me who have relationships with the people I live with; I can't speak to whether they might feel compelled to relay things.

I really don't like making locked posts, but perhaps that's what's called for here. I do have the "people I trust and am not dating" trust group specifically for the purpose of being able to rant about relationship issues to blow off some steam without worrying about hurting anybody, before I go have a productive conversation with them. Though I'm not sure if I've ever posted to it. Perhaps I should do something similar, even if it means there's no opportunity for random Internet people to learn from my example [which is an idea I kind of like; I believe this journal should provide some small amount of value to the world]?