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It seems there is a lot of misinformation going around about my life, and all sorts of odd things are getting back to me. In an effort to clear up common misconceptions and maybe avoid future ones, I'd like to set the record straight on some matters. If you're squeamish about frank discussion of my sex life, read no further.
For the record...
...I am not in a "relationship" with, going out with, or dating anybody at present, nor have I been in almost six months.
...I do not want to be in a "relationship", etc. with anybody at this time. I haven't moved far enough beyond my last relationship to be ready for another, and, only partly related to that, I think I need some single time right now.
...I am polyamorous by nature. I do not anticipate entering into a monogamous relationship any time in the near future, even once I am ready to enter into another relationship.
...I have informed everybody with whom I have entered into any sort of sexual relationship, or engaged in any sort of sexual activity, of the above, and reminded them of it so they could make an informed decision as to whether they wanted to become involved with me. I feel confident that anybody who is involved with me is aware of the realities of the situation and has decided that they believe they can handle it.
...while I have not given each of my partners a detailed sexual history, I am willing and able to do so if they would like. I don't typically volunteer historical information (as I've known people who don't feel they need to hear it or particularly want to), but I try to keep my partners informed of one another's existence and the status of my relationships with each in a timely manner. Along these lines, I am also prepared to give a description of how much of a risk I pose in terms of STDs, and I make a point of engaging in discussion of these issues before engaging in "higher-risk" activities.
...although I can often be somewhat oblivious when it comes to people flirting with me, as a general rule I don't object to being flirted with.
...as anybody who has talked with me about this sort of thing knows, I'm generally quite open about talking about my relationships. Anybody who is confused about what is going on in my life is welcome to ask, and I'll probably even tell them. Anybody who has an objection to how I'm treating somebody is welcome to bring it up with me - I'll either tell you how I've already acted to address the concerns you raise, or take new ones to heart and try to determine whether I need to change something. Anybody who is planning on informing other people about the facts of my life is asked to please confirm them with me first.
In short, there's no need to gossip or speculate about my sex life. If you have questions, concerns, or opinions, please bring them to me.
Actually, this applies to most aspects of my life. So, for the record, I will be graduating at the end of this semester.
For the record...
...I am not in a "relationship" with, going out with, or dating anybody at present, nor have I been in almost six months.
...I do not want to be in a "relationship", etc. with anybody at this time. I haven't moved far enough beyond my last relationship to be ready for another, and, only partly related to that, I think I need some single time right now.
...I am polyamorous by nature. I do not anticipate entering into a monogamous relationship any time in the near future, even once I am ready to enter into another relationship.
...I have informed everybody with whom I have entered into any sort of sexual relationship, or engaged in any sort of sexual activity, of the above, and reminded them of it so they could make an informed decision as to whether they wanted to become involved with me. I feel confident that anybody who is involved with me is aware of the realities of the situation and has decided that they believe they can handle it.
...while I have not given each of my partners a detailed sexual history, I am willing and able to do so if they would like. I don't typically volunteer historical information (as I've known people who don't feel they need to hear it or particularly want to), but I try to keep my partners informed of one another's existence and the status of my relationships with each in a timely manner. Along these lines, I am also prepared to give a description of how much of a risk I pose in terms of STDs, and I make a point of engaging in discussion of these issues before engaging in "higher-risk" activities.
...although I can often be somewhat oblivious when it comes to people flirting with me, as a general rule I don't object to being flirted with.
...as anybody who has talked with me about this sort of thing knows, I'm generally quite open about talking about my relationships. Anybody who is confused about what is going on in my life is welcome to ask, and I'll probably even tell them. Anybody who has an objection to how I'm treating somebody is welcome to bring it up with me - I'll either tell you how I've already acted to address the concerns you raise, or take new ones to heart and try to determine whether I need to change something. Anybody who is planning on informing other people about the facts of my life is asked to please confirm them with me first.
In short, there's no need to gossip or speculate about my sex life. If you have questions, concerns, or opinions, please bring them to me.
Actually, this applies to most aspects of my life. So, for the record, I will be graduating at the end of this semester.
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And I'm flirting with you. Right...now.